DISCUSSING THE UNDISCUSSED

On April 14th, Bob Confer wrote an article for The Wellsville Sun titled “The Deadly Stress of Farming: New York farmers are committing suicide at alarming rates, help is available.” His piece has haunted me since reading it.

I am a descendant of farmers in rural New York state. My mother’s father and her grandfather farmed in Allentown. My father was a pasteurizer for a dairy in New Jersey. When I was raised in Secaucus, there were still pig farms, and towns like Franklin Lakes, Mahwah, and Wyckoff had surrounding orchards and farms. My father and Cy Sommer (Uncle Cy), his best friend, purchased farmland near Delhi, NY. Our neighbors were dairy farmers. I should add that my father was very much a “city boy,” a first-generation American born in Brooklyn. Despite his employment and rural friendships, he was always eager to return to the city. I grew up with one foot in the urban environment and the other in the rural. These are contradictory worlds that are part of my contradictory nature. I take pleasure in the city’s cultural offerings (though uncomfortable with the congestion), but I prefer farm country with its small towns and villages.

Agriculture is taken for granted. The average person thinks little about where food comes from and the intense labor of raising crops and cattle. I did migrant work and milked cows, besides having what we called “kitchen gardens,” which were no small plots. There is a difference between a warm, freshly laid egg and those purchased in the grocery market. Hens glare and squawk a warning when you reach into their nest. A Holstein cow is no fun to mount and attempt to ride⸺ neither you nor the cow will enjoy it. Nothing tastes better than freshly picked berries, tomatoes, lettuce, corn, green beans, and other crops.

The issues family farmers contend with are too numerous and diverse to list, due to the variable types of farming. Regardless of the type of farm, a farm’s health depends on the soil’s health and finding good solutions to problems. Wendell Berry observes, “A good solution will satisfy a whole range of criteria; it will be good in all respects. A farm that has found correct agricultural solutions to its problems will be fertile, productive, healthful, conservative, beautiful, pleasant to live on.” A farm is a home, a place of residence, not just a business. There is one aspect of farming that needs a good solution. Mental health.

Bob Confer writes: “The rate of suicide for those who put food on our tables is 44 per every 100,000. For comparison, the rate for the general population is around 14.”* The figure for veterans taking their lives is 34 per every 100,000.**  A Canadian study showed that “Approximately 57% and 33% of participants were classified as possible and probable cases for anxiety, respectively; the respective proportions for depression were 34% and 15%.” Additionally, the findings showed that “Roughly 45% of farmer respondents had high stress, and 58% and 35% met the classifications for anxiety and depression.”***

Statistical data doesn’t put a face on those struggling with mental health issues. Unless you are on the staff of a VA Hospital or working with veterans and their families struggling with psychological challenges in some capacity, the reality of the mental health crisis is glanced over in a news report. Regretfully, many in Washington and Ottawa and urban dwellers give little thought to the crisis in the farm states and provinces.   

Farmers contend with multiple stressors that include the impact of tariffs, climate change, animal diseases, invasive insects and creatures, and the costs of crop seed, animal feed, fertilizer, and machinery. Business cycles of when and what to plant and when to harvest depend on the weather and demand. Farmers receive pennies on the dollar of what we pay at the grocery market. Middlemen reap higher profits from the intense, back-breaking labor of agriculture workers. Physical injuries such as back and other injuries are common. To continue their work, lifting seed and feed sacks, bales of hay, and picking vegetables, dependence on prescription painkillers and other drugs can lead to addiction. Family relationships, as anyone with a family knows, are stressful for men and women who are always together in a livelihood in which there is no separation of family and business. Isolation, the distance between neighbors, and burnout contribute to emotional difficulties.

I have observed dramatic changes in rural communities due to the mechanization of agricultural (agri-business) operations and their impact on families. We need to maintain rural hospitals that can provide for the physical and mental health of farm families and their communities.

Mental Health issues are neither a matter of rural v. urban, Republican v. Democrat, nor limited to one Canadian party or other. We all need to follow the example of the citizens of Wellsville, New York, just as other communities and organizations that have taken steps to raise mental health awareness. Most importantly, we must provide the services and support for those with mental health issues regardless of where they live and their occupation.

When you shop for groceries, prepare and sit down for your meals, I hope you will take a moment to think about those who labor on the good land to make your meal possible.

RESOURCES for HELP

If you, a family member, or someone you know is considering suicide, help is available at the 988 Suicide & Crisis Life Line.

 NY FarmNet is a free and confidential consulting service available to any farm located in New York State to discuss financial and health issues. Their hotline is 1.800.547.3276.

For Canadians, the Provinces have information at:

https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/mental-health-services/mental-health-get-help.html

Au Coeur des Familles Agricoles – Milk Run Program (French only)

A Quebec not-for-profit organization offering free support services for farmers, including checking in to assess their mental health, offering respite from the farm when needed, and intervening with farmers in distress

Farmer Wellness Initiative https://www.ontario.ca/page/mental-health-resources-for-farmers

Access to free, professional mental health counselling support by calling the toll-free number 1-866-267-6255.

Designed to help connect Ontario farmers and their families with tailored mental health support offered by licensed professionals, the Farmer Wellness Initiative is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year. Available in English, French and Spanish.

North Central Farm and Ranch Stress Assistance Center

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8755

Crisis Text Line: Text “HOME” to 741741

Iowa Concern Hotline: 1-800-447-1985. Available in the 12-state north central region, including Illinois, Iowa, Indiana, Kansas, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, North Dakota, Nebraska, Ohio, South Dakota, Wisconsin. Serving the farm community, Iowa Concern has access to an attorney for legal education, stress counselors, and information and referral services for a wide variety of topics.

Bob Confer, “The Deadly Stress of Farming’. https://wellsvillesun.com/blog/2025/04/14/column-the-deadly-stress-of-farming/

Jones-Bitton, A., Best, C., MacTavish, J. et al. Stress, anxiety, depression, and resilience in Canadian farmers. Soc Psychiatry Psychiatr Epidemiol 55, 229–236 (2020). https://doi.org/10.1007/s00127-019-01738-2

REFERENCES

*Bob Confer, “The Deadly Stress of Farming’. https://wellsvillesun.com/blog/2025/04/14/column-the-deadly-stress-of-farming/

**The CDC reports that in rural communities, “the suicide rate is between 18.3 and 20.5 per 100,000 residents, compared to large urban communities where the rate is between 10.9 and 12.5 per 100,000.”

***Jones-Bitton, A., Best, C., MacTavish, J. et al. Stress, anxiety, depression, and resilience in Canadian farmers. Soc Psychiatry Psychiatr Epidemiol 55, 229–236 (2020). https://doi.org/10.1007/s00127-019-01738-2

Image: Barn Yard  Photographer: Charles van Heck

9 responses to “DISCUSSING THE UNDISCUSSED”

  1. Thank for sharing your thoughts and information on this issue. The numbers of farmers dealing with stress and depression that too often leads to them ending their lives is much larger than many average citizens know about. The percentage of Americans living and working on farms was once very high. Today, it is a rather small percentage of the population. A good share of the larger population often think little about farms and who supplies the food they consume. Farming has always been a challenging endeavor. However, the stress and demands on farming families may be greater today than ever. It can be a great life, however can easily become overwhelming with difficulties that can seem insurmountable. Regrettably, many strong self-reliant farmers who often work 7 days a week are people who keep their problems to themselves. Those who may be struggling to keep a generational farm business going can feel like they are letting down past generations who passed the torch to them. Their struggles can go well beyond business and financial issues. So many of those folks are unlikely to easily open up and talk about the burdens they are carrying. Often they will need help to encourage them to reach out. It is important to encourage that and very important to have resources available if and when they do. Thank you for listing some that could be helpful to farmers who are struggling and for bringing some further attention to this issue.

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    1. Thank you, Don for your observations. We have a lot of work to do to assist our farmers and rural communities in both the States and Canada. My contribution is one small step. I hope we can get more people involved to address the issues.

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    Thank you, Charles, for this sharing of deep affectionately concern. I grew up in a farming village in Taiwan back in the 50s. For feeding the large number of pigs my parents raised, we bought bags of corns, soy beans, and other grains from Cargill, the number 1 American company based in Midwest. Transport, cleaning, shots, and more, all were almost completely done by backbreaking labor of hard sweats. Yet, how things have since changed, like everything else. Uncle Sam used to fly a big banner of democracy and freedom in its engagements on the international stage, particularly in our recent memory while defending South Korea or Vietnam, or fighting in Middle East wars. Now we have Make America Great Again by the big dollar sign of Greenbacks to keep the superiority of the dragon at bay, for how long who knows. Now the food we serve on a dinner table has been reported to have traveled an average of 2,000 miles prior to filling up our insatiable tummy. Lord, have mercy. Please pray for me heading west to see our son there. btw, wonder if this wall of stacks of bookshelves full of classics is a picture of your study room in your basement?

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    1. Hsiau, You raise good points. Things have changed. It is incredible how much transportation is involved in food distribution, and disheartening that American Food Aid has become politicized resulting in hunger, starvation, and death. Perhaps someday the U.S. will again raise the flag of democracy and freedom. We can do this without endless wars. We will talk soon.

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  3. What a wonderfully penned and eye opening post. My papa was a farmer I had a cow named Brownie I used to ride on her back to bring the other cows into the barn at night. It is so sad to realize things have gotten so bad🥺 my heart goes out to the farmers who are struggling. 🙏🏻❤️‍🔥

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    1. Thank you, Jessi for your kind comments. You brought a smile with your Brownie story. Bob Confer’s article, and I want to give full credit to Bob because he opened my eyes to the crisis, and what I wrote are only small steps in raising awareness. There is much work to be done to raise the awareness of the situation farmers and our rural communities face. I hope you will write a piece for your readers, or ask them to read this post. However, we need people to take steps to both raise awareness and “Take Action.”

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  4. We truly do🙌🏻 let me see what I can do to support this Charles🙏🏻

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  5. Charles… As you may recall I was born and raised on the prairies and understand full well the spectrum of issues that traditional and corporate farms encounter that are often totally out of their control or expectations. Mother nature is increasingly not very friendly and we have our climate situation to thank for this. The costs for everything are on the rise and the supply chain complexities only exacerbate these realities. One crop failure can mean the difference to having a good year or losing the farm due to financial pressures or just plain fed up and quitting.

    Your posting of the Bob Confers article and the follow up perhaps will nudge those folks that can address some of the reasons that we are in this dilemma and bring solutions to the table before there is no farm future for many generational families or folks with enough courage and stamina to take another run at it. I have farmer relatives in Alberta and I am certain that they will relate to what Bob Confers has to say.

    All any of us can really do is to continue to shine a bright light on this problem area so that it does not get lost in the weeds, as so many issues with mental illness are experiencing these days, not just on the farm.

    Thank you for what you do! JohnG

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    1. John, thank you for your thoughtful and kind comments. Yes, I remember that you were born and raised on the prairies. I am running as fast as I can to raise issues with thoughtful pieces rather than rants. There are times when it feels like the loneliness of a long distance runner. Readers like you and the others who stop by, people like Bob Confers give me encouragement. I hope others find encouragement what I write. We must stand together. I hope that you and others will feel free to send Bob’s and my piece (if it is worthy) to Ottawa, Washington, the provinces and states governments along with your personal notes. I want to remind you, and all Canadians, that I proudly fly the Canadian and American flags from my front porch. We share more than a common border and language. We must face together the critical issues.

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